For some reason I wake up at 5:53am each morning. How weird is that? Then, if I try to roll over for a bit more snooze, someone's nose is quietly in my face until I open my eyes and acknowledge her. Mr. Stilwell said Abby would just stand there until you got up to let her out. I am not that patient when it comes to going to the bathroom.

I have been going out front first thing in the morning to trim the dead blooms off the Knockout roses. Meg says this is a must so that the bushes can knock us out with more blooms. It is nice and cool and I can hear birds, the cows nearby, a rooster occasionally, and the obnoxious pitbull next door. It is a very pleasant way to start the day, sans pitbull. Meg has an amazing green thumb and Mom and Dad are becoming the gardeners extraordinaire. I hope I can keep up. Of course, I did have a potato from the garden for dinner last night. Just one, you say? Well, I only need one. So there.

Rose by Farrell Eaves' magic camera

I remember in maybe the third grade, Daddy helped me with my science fair project. I was comparing the growth of corn and lima bean seeds. I had to start seeds and then stop their growth at different stages. We made a big mounting board and had little jars on each side where you could see the seeds as they progressed. I think the holders were probably those mounting pieces from Dad's pegboard in the shop and the little plastic jars for were for nails. I think I had matured plants, too. Not bad for a girl, huh?! I won third place and have always included that on my curriculum vitae as an important kudo to be recognized.

Hope you get to smell roses today... not listen to pitbulls...

 Stress
So I took the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale test today and about passed out. Good thing a few experiences have moved along or you would be peeling me off the floor! Many of the items I checked were about changes and that will work itself out. Whew! Others were surrounding Jim's accident or my health and those issues will improve with time, also. The scale indicated my stress level was enough to make me ill. Duh!

So I went to the Happiness Project and lo and behold, an older post reminded me of what Mom or maybe Dad used to say: "This too shall pass." And boy, is that true! Oh, for hindsight when you are at the front of the horse. And wow did Dad need to sue that fellow for the "Don't sweat the small stuff" idea. Farrell Eaves lived by that before Richard Carlson was born. I remember when I was living in Mississippi and something horrendous was happening with the septic tank at the house. Imagine a septic tank in sand at the bayou, would you? Dad and I were talking on the phone and he told me that even if a bulldozer drove right through the middle of my house, as long as no one was hurt, things would be alright. I will never forget that and it was almost 30 years ago.

The kitchen window

I am going to have a "This too shall pass" day. When I look at things to sort or weeds, I will smile and know they will not be there some day in the future. When I think about the house at Larcom Lane not selling or the price going down, down, down, I am going to put another piece of furniture on Craigslist. Happy TTSP!

Ok, call me crazy. Everyone else does. After falling in love with Daisy, Meg's newly adopted 6-year-old German Shorthaired Pointer, I have adopted Abby. She is 11 years old and is amazing!!! ( Notice, Monte, I am avoiding the word "awesome". Meg and I are expanding our expressive vocabulary.)

Abby comes from a family where both adults have fibromyalgia and Steve just had serious back surgery. She is a highly trained hunting dog who hasn't been hunting for several years but is so much fun because she is so smart, follows commands so well, and can catch a ball or frisbee midair! Whoo-hoo! Vaughn absolutely loves that and has been practicing throwing the frisbee. She works well here as there is a fence. She makes me get outside!

Now I have small, medium and large doggies!

Oops, sorry. Worked on taxes for us and for Pop's estate. Then went to GA to work on the house for a real estate agent open house. Oh, my gosh! And to think we are doing all this to LOSE money! 

Savannah came over to help me around the house.

Have an appointment with my awesome fibromyalgia specialist that I searched for and researched. Monday morning at 9am. Yea! Need him badly after this week!

Rebecca, I mean Marilee!

Yes, we have a Rebecca in the family now, but it's me on the farm. And yes, corny is an Eaves trait. (For you younger ones, Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm)

Anyhoo, that is me and the south 40. You can see the farm behind me but I carefully choose this angle so you would be duly impressed and not see the typical subdivision around.

: ) I can pretend can't I?

Jim was here two weekends ago and helped me till and plant my raised garden. I suspect someone is eating the lettuce but haven't caught Peter Rabbit yet. Or the sneeky bird... I am not sure a rabbit can jump up on our raised bed as it is anywhere from 3-4.5 feet high. 

Trying my hand at heirloom tomatoes ...

And all summer long strawberries ... (Mom, need pastry)

Spinach!

We have lettuce, too. And I am hoping the asparagus in the background proves productive. Okra, red bell peppers, and yellow squash. We will see.

Vaughn and Riley want to plant cucumbers and carrots. I am going to let them plant down on the ground where they can reach things themselves. And since we don't have a pool yet, we are thinking about an inground trampoline. Remember that Eaves clan? At Aunt Opal's house in Cookeville?

And look who just arrived in the apple tree! Four new robins! They just turn their little beaks up and squeal for mom to bring yummies! I watched a momma dove hatch her one large pink egg over the last three weeks. He is gone now.  I guess the whole family is what I hear outside the bathroom window. You are welcome to visit Eden any time. Love you all.

What funny big heads!

So you ask, how is your healing process coming along? Healing? Yes, I am determined to feel better. Fibromyalgia is a very real disease and encompasses the body, mind and spirit. I am learning as much as I can about it and have an appointment with a specialist in Franklin. I found out about him on the Vanderbilt Hospital website. He was a doctor there and taught at the university and now has his own practice. He only sees those patients with fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome, and  gout.  I don't have gout, thank goodness. I have everything else...

So, you say, what is the orchid about? Well, I find it very beautiful and breathtaking to look at. I know Gabby finds them beautiful and healing, too.  It sits in the corner of my bath where it gets lots of moisture and I see it all the time. I am encouraged to take a bath every night to relax my muscles before I go to sleep. Sleep is difficult and the movements of my legs during the night are lessened if I am not as tense. I think in my sleep study it said my legs move 90+ times per hour. Argh!

Tennessee is beautiful.  I have chosen some vegetables and fruits to grow (we will see) and there are fruit trees and vines I will be watching. There are birds everywhere. Nature is the best medicine ever. Be sure to get your dose of it every day.

A moment of inspiration...

I used to love writing poetry. You know, children don't spend much time with it anymore. They are too busy getting ready for standardized tests. Too bad... Occasionally I jot one down and since we are cleaning out EVERYTHING, I found this one from when Jim received his Miata convertible from Daniel, Tim, and Seth for his birthday. License plate FRMYSNZ. Now Jim is an amazing poet and writer, but I'll be brave and share this one.

Convertible Meditation

When you let the top down

            the world is different to my eyes.

            Blue turns to azure,

            Soft clouds become puffs of meringue.

The wind that silently blew trees

            and leaves and grass as we

            drove by

            is now touching me.

Pushing my hair back,

            swishing around my nose like a gentle finger,

            making my silk scarf flutter around my neck

            tickling itself outside the car’s periphery.

Small breaths of cool air

            swirl over my bare arms and

            I watch to see if they are becoming pink in the sun.

I imagine that those who pass,

            and those we pass

            could be thinking

                        “Oh, what fun!”, or

                        “I wish that were me!”, or

                        “She looks just like Jackie O!”

My senses are embraced in a small space and time

            perhaps to become

                        convertible meditation.

 

Marilee Tice  2010

Happy New...February!

How pitiful is it to go so long without sharing? Let's see, I had surgery on November 4 and then while I am in the bed Jim has a horrific accident at the warehouse in Atlanta in the night. Thank you to Rebecca and Daniel for helping sit with him at the emergency room and get him home at 1am on November 16. So, yes, the two old folks have been hobbling around in the convalescent home in Griffin, while trying to prepare for the wedding, etc. Mom has been incredible and wore herself out going back and forth to help us and me. All the boys rallied with their girls to help us at Thanksgiving along with the six doggies. Tim and Jane gave up vacation days to serve us, and Seth and Kristen came home early from UGA. How blessed are we?! Our church family has been amazing to check on us and brought us food for weeks, including Thanksgiving dinner for eight!

We really set out on the road to recovery when we approached the wedding date. It was one of the most glorious experiences our family has ever had. I really miss that Nancy wasn't there to laugh and cry with us and to see this amazing new family, Daniel and Rebecca. And I got my first dance with my son!

Someone Special

I have insomnia with my new medicine, so at 4:30am I was cleaning and sorting in the kitchen and for some reason I must have come across an item or picture that reminded me of the boys in kindergarten. Daniel, Tim and Seth all had Anne Fisher as their Kindergarten teacher at Third Ward Elementary School. She was a balance of structure and kindness and calm and respect that they all needed in their own ways. Daniel once called a little girl a "bitch" in class and she called me about it. She decided it wasn't of much consequence since he couldn't remember the word later when she talked to him in the hall. I surely didn't know where he had heard it, as it wasn't from Jim Tice's mouth! I asked Tim one day after he had been in kindergarten awhile if he had a girlfriend. I would never ask that now... He said he had three but he was only going to marry Mary Bay. I will leave it at that, Tim. Seth had to go to the principal, Millie Bankston's, office a few times, which we just had to get used to from then on through his school career. She called me once to check about one of his visits and asked me if she should scold him with or without her peepers on. I think she meant should she be stern, as peepers contribute to that look. I, of course, said "Yes! With peepers!"

 Mrs. Fisher survived all three and they started out on paths that have led them to amazing places of success, and growth, and love. We are all thankful for her. We all were there at her reception when she retired. Daniel doesn't say any bad words around me, Tim is not going to marry Mary Bay, and Seth has been reformed. I am a very grateful Mother.

Natural highs

Last night Jim asked for salmon patties. I remember how the boys asked for those alot, at least Tim and Seth. My mother made them all the time and I loved them and I think Jim remembers that, too, from his mom's cooking. So I think salmon patties qualify for a natural high.

Jim found this poster at a school and it lists some terribly awesome ways to get high - naturally. I think I will get started this afternoon. . . after I eat a salmon patty.

NATURAL HIGHS

Falling in love. Laughing so hard your face hurts. Watching a child do something for the first time after you taught them. Getting mail. Working a successful project with a good friend. Going out to eat with friends. Being in love. A bubble bath. Lying in bed and listening to the rain outside. Finding out that the sweater you want is on sale for half-price. Feeling when the fish takes the bait and is off and running. Holding someone you love in front of the fireplace. Hearing a song that reminds you of someone you love. White water rafting. Seeing someone you love do something outstanding. Making the winning score. Being told you did an excellent job by your peers. The first time your child says, “I love you”. Sledding down a hill during a big flake snow. A new hobby. Hitting the winning run in the bottom of the ninth. Running your best time. Hugging your Dad! Mom! When your brother or sister says they love you. When your dog jumps around because he’s glad to see you. When your boss says, “perfect”. Finishing a good book. Pay day. Having flowers sent to you. A clear day at the beach. An unexpected present. A surprise visit from a friend. Meditation. Seeing a falling star. A beautiful sunset. Hitting the lottery. Finding a nest of baby bunnies. Solving a problem. A hot air balloon ride. Eating pizza. Your favorite meal. A job well done. A long-distance call from a friend. A hug. A spider web with dew on it in the early morning sun. reading under an electric blanket on a cold, rainy day. A long, hot shower. Making somebody laugh. Walking on the beach. Decorating a Christmas tree. Loving yourself. Music. International travel. Intimacy. A great idea. Plunging your hot body into a cool pool. Singing. The quiet after a snowfall. A letter from a friend. Dancing. Breakfast in bed. Candlelit dinner with the one you love. Hearing someone say, “I love you”. Holding hands. Clean hair. The first spring flower. Snuggling the soft skin of a baby. Having a wish come true.

J.Mayer & Associates ©1990

A Meloncholy Day

Steve Jobs 1955-2011

Perhaps it's my age, perhaps my love of technology that started with a chance encounter with an Apple computer, perhaps it is the experience of loss of Nancy to cancer...but today is a pensive one. The world has seen the coming and going of another of the genius, creative and honorable minds wrought of God's most powerful wishes. Steve Jobs is one of those people who you expect to see live forever and when they die it takes your breath away. My hope and fervency is for his legacy to remain pure and focused. "To infinity and beyond!"

Overwhelmed

So Jim and I are overwhelmed. But it is not necessarily with bad things, as so often seems the case. It is now with so many fabulous things. For example, Daniel and Rebecca getting married in December and seeing them getting ready after contemplating this for so many years. And Tim and Jane on their journey with Tim absolutely engaged in his new job and Jane getting ready to leap into her masters work. Seth is so on a path by turning around those lemons into lemonade and trying to focus the lens on a career in medicine and helping others.  We are trying to become more tech savvy so that more is done efficiently in that realm. Talk about overwhelmed! As a teacher, it makes my job seem so daunting and yet so challenging. I think I just have to concentrate on being my best for my future grandchildren. : )

It's a girl!

So, how many months has is been? Too many, but the road to a great blog is paved with good intentions. Isn't that the old saying? After starting on the estate work Jim and I also spent much time with Mom and Dad as we all mourned the loss of Uncle George. Not only did we lose him unexpectedly, he left us with a mell of a hess. And he left his companion, Tica. Distraught in the question of a home for her, Mom and Dad were visibly relieved when Jim and Beau and I took her in. Now we are all fast friends. It took awhile. You can imagine the adjustment after living in the quiet environment of a 75 year old bachelor! Beau and Tica are both 9 years old and just live the retirement home life, especially Tica. She loves lounging in the sun by the pool.

Getting Healthy

JT, Beau and I have been discussing getting healthy. I have been looking into yoga and tai chi, Beau has requested more walkies, and Jim not only walks but is really wanting to join a disc golf group. We haven't found one of those nearby and I am truly afraid that I might miss and Jim would end up headless.

Mid-week

The new adventure is the "estate". Jim and I have never had to deal with as much stuff and paperwork ever before. Is there a super hero called "The Shredder"? That would be me! I have shredded at least 30 bags full including paperwork from the 60's. It has inspired us to update our wills, streamline our estate, and totally clean the clutter!!!

Tuesday, March 1

There is so much that goes on in a family...even one our size. And ours is a bit smaller these days. Without Pop, Jim and I are missing a large part of our days and weekends, filled now with paperwork and cleaning and sorting. We would much rather be hearing Pop's stories. Beau gets more attention though.